Following on from my first happy post I am really pleased to say I am finding it really easy to find things that are making me happy.
One which perhaps cannot be pictorially represented is the lovely comments my followers are leaving on my blog. By being able to email a quick response to each of these lovely fellow bloggers has resulted in me feel so much happier. I really do appreciate the time taken to leave a message.
I am still sad that I have had to add a word verification to my blog but that day of over 10.000!!! Spam comments totally freaked me out.
I have totally fallen in love with some of the lovely blogs and bloggers that abide in Blogland. I hope you know who you are. Too many gorgeous ones to pick out one or two.
So, I have been thinking more about being happy since starting my picture collages. I used to hate the winter. Then I had a lightbulb moment. As I hit my late 50's a sense of my own mortality kicked in. I think this becomes especially apparent as you lose your parents and sadly my brother died too aged 54. How he would love another winter.
So, as I was hating winter I was effectively hating half the time I had left in my lifetime. So, I simply put in a mindset change. Yoga helps so much with this. As does changing every negative thought to a positive. What is the point of being retired if you do not take the time to reflect on enhancing your life..
I pinned a quotation in the kitchen which goes like this...
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.
Grant me the courage to change the things I can,and the wisdom to know the difference.
That little quotation may seem twee or contrived but my goodness if you reflect upon it,it is so deep. And when I am crafting I reflect a lot.
I try and smile a lot even to myself. I try and breathe in the colour yellow. Not particularly a favourite of mine but such an uplifting colour in the winter
And lastly if I am out and about I try and speak to elderly people. When both my Mum and Mother In Law became elderly and subsequently widowed the loneliness was the worst thing for them to bear. Ill health was bad but at least they got to go to the doctors, see the nurse or visit the hospital. But days when they saw no-one were the worst,the saddest and the most depressing.
They both absolutely loved little children,but sadly as society has changed some mothers really resent people talking to their children and because of the way of the world these days children themselves are wary of strangers talking to them. Even grey haired little old ladies who both weighed about 7 stone with walking sticks.
The other day a lady walked past me and she looked so smart. She had the prettiest scarf on, little gold shoes and her hair was as neat as a pin. I was rushing around looking the complete opposite.
Anyway. I looked at her and she glanced at me. She looked so lovely but so sad. We were past each other so quickly but something made me turn and I ran to her and said. "You look really lovely today ."
She stopped in her tracks,looked at me and ascertained I was not a mad woman. Then she put her arm on mine and said.
" My dear, you have made my day. My husband died last year and I miss him so much. One of the things he used to say to me every day was that I looked lovely. No one has said that to me since until today!.
We actually both felt a bit teary as it reminded me so much of the day my Mum said to me.
"I have a drawer full of my favourite jewellery upstairs that I can never wear again."
When I asked her why she replied.
" Because no one is here to do it up at the back for me"
I felt such sadness that day. I wish now I had taken the whole drawerfull in to have magnetic clasps put on.
I know why I am feeling so reflective today. It is a year tomorrow since my dear mother in law died. I blogged about it then and this " circle of life " we all inhabit.
I am going to keep on trying to change any negative perceptions I have about my life. I am going to try and make every day count and I am going to continue waking every morning and slipping into sleep each night making a mental inventory of all the things which make me happy and make me smile.
After all these words I will just post my happy picture collage tomorrow.
Thank you for reading x